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It is also wrong to treat persons with gender dysphoria as powerless victims. I have a dear male friend who, if born in a different time would probably have transitioned. However he is married to a woman with health problems of her own and severe insecurity because of them. He realizes that his raising the question of transition would hurt her. So, he has resolved to live with it. I may be one of the only people he has trusted with this secret--probably because I had a transwoman husband many years ago. We were divorced and went our own ways but are still in contact.

Here is another thought that is currently unsayable. We have allowed and encouraged, in my view, children and youth to use the threat of suicide as the ultimate 'get your own way' weapon against parents. Parents are told "you can have a live daughter or a dead son". A threat of suicide must always be seen as a cry for help, never as an attempt to manipulate others. Society seems to have abandoned any expression of disapproval for suicide--still a sin for many religions, but even there a minister who refused funeral services for a suicide would be branded as heartless. People are allowed the language of "you're making me do this", "It will be your fault" etc. with no one daring to say--"no, if you chose to die over this, it is your decision. You are the bully, not we." I'm not sure how to turn this around--but someone needs to be thinking about it.

Rita

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Lhfry's avatar

So we feminists fought for years to avoid the imprisonment of stereotypical womanhood. Now if you are a woman who wants to be a lumberjack, you must be a man. And the men who “transition” present basically as an exaggerated fe male stereotype. Amazing.

You could also add to Matt Walsh’s list re xenomelia ( a new term to me) that we don’t identify them as “trans-paraplegic”

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